I am asking Romani & non-Romani alike to help us get this show cancelled before it even airs.
TLC has created a spin-off version of their series, “My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding” called “Gypsy Sisters”. It features the two most outlandish & controversial women of the entire series.
These women are not part of any Romanichal community.
These women are making money & a holy show of the Romanichal because they merely have “ancestry”.
They in no way represent Romani or Romanichal culture.
I would love to see Romani, Romany & Gadje alike stand up for the American Romanichal community. Let’s put aside our differences & fight for fair & just representation in the media.
Please, tell TLC how racist this show is.
From me to all of you….
(no matter what dialect you speak, the grammar sections are REALLY useful)
Highly recommend it!
Found a website today - Romalgbt - that is (unfortunately for most of my Roma followers) in Czech and is basically a free clinic for people in the Czech Republic. They offer an ear and free counseling to anyone who needs help.
Their tagline says it all: “jsem také člověk” - I am also a person.
They have pages about coming out, places of interest, links and how to contact them. It’s SUCH a great thing to see… Generally, LGBT is considered taboo (marime) by the older generations and we’re not even allowed to talk about it… so this is a great development. For my Czech followers:
“Ahoj holky a kluci,
vítejte na stránkách první romské LGBT (lesbické-gay-bisexuální-transgender) poradny. Proč zrovna romské? Protože i mezi námi jsou příslušníci LGBT menšiny. V našich rodinách je ale tohle téma často tabu a kolikrát nám chybí někdo, s kým bychom si mohli normálně promluvit.
I proto jsme založili poradnu, na kterou se můžete kdykoliv anonymně a zcela bezplatně obrátit, pokud:
- řešíte svou sexuální orientaci
- bojíte se reakce rodiny
- bojíte se reakce okolí (kamarádi, spolužáci, pracovní kolektiv)
- vaše rodina už to ví a má s tím problém, včetně toho, že čelíte fyzickému nebo psychickému nátlaku
- jste obětí šikany ve škole nebo na pracovišti
- řešíte jakýkoliv jiný problém, který souvisí s LGBT tematikou
Jak nás můžete kontaktovat?
Nejlépe e-mailem na adresu uvedenou v kontaktech. Záleží na vás, jestli dáváte přednost písemné nebo osobní komunikaci. Můžete nám svůj problém popsat, anebo jen mailem poslat telefonní číslo a my se vám ozveme.
Sami jsme prožili něco podobného co možná prožíváte teď vy, tak se nestyďte a klidně se ozvěte, jsme tu pro vás.”
(54# Czech Republic) Elena Gorolová: Why she kicks ass
“Everything is possible, where there is a will”
- She is the spokesperson for the Group of Women Harmed by Forced Sterilization in the Czech Republic, who has broken not only Czech but also Roma gender stereotypes, by speaking out in public about her experience as a survivor of forced sterilisation and advocating for redress. Her efforts have brought this issue visible at the local, national, and international levels; and were further recognised when the Government of the Czech Republic acknowledged these harms in 2009.
- She is also the coordinator of the Human Rights Team of the Ostrava-based nonprofit organization Vzájemné soužití (Life Together) and civil society member of the Czech Government Council for Roma Community Affairs, and is a well known speaker to the UN.
- To this day, she has a bitter memory of the critical moment in the delivery room when health care workers gave her a paper to sign and said “Sign this or you will die.” “No one told me what it meant, I was young,” says Gorolová. Doctors sterilised her in 1990 at the age of 21. The doctors decided to sterilise her in the course of her second Caesarean delivery. Two or more Caesarean deliveries, was the most frequent reason cited as a precedent to sterilise.
- However, the women harmed by these sterilisations say the problem is that they never gave their informed consent to the surgery, nor were they given any information about sterilisation and what it really meant. Elena is one of eighty-seven (87) women who sent complaints of being forcibly sterilised to the Czech Public Defender of Rights (the ombudsman). In December 2005, in his Final Statement on this issue, the ombudsman accepted that sterilisations performed on Romani women during the communist era had been of a eugenic nature. Both his report and cases litigated by the League of Human Rights now show that illegal sterilisations have continued up until today.
- “After our demonstrations, the women had to deal with many local papers writing untrue articles about them,” she said. “On how they were perceived by neighbours, alleging that they owed money, or did not pay rent, or comparing the difference between the states of mind of Romani and non-Romani women when consenting to sterilization.” But the changes they have won have been rewarding. The term “informed consent” is now a part of the vocabulary at hospitals and more women have been coming forward to share their experiences.
- “The nurse told me that previously the method had been to tie the tubes, but that some women had become pregnant despite this,” she said. “They didn’t want any more Roma children to be born…I have experienced discrimination since I was a child…they just don’t like the Roma people.”
- She strives to create friendly platforms for communication between Roma and non-Roma in Ostrav, and to improve the living conditions of families in need.
- On the occasion of Elena Gorolová’s presentation in the UN Committee on 17th August, the Human Rights Team at Life Together organised two significant events: a peaceful meeting in Ostrava and an opening ceremony at the Brno-based Museum of Romani Culture.
Page from the “Kur’ani: Irame ki Romane Chib”
~ Muharem Serbezovski (2005, Sarajevo)
(Qu’ran written in Romanes and Arabic, so beautiful)
In every single dialect of Rromanes, the Romani language, there is a word specifically for those outside of our ethnicity; gadje, gadže, gažhe, gaujer, gage, gorger, gorgio, etc..
It is speculated that this word came into being from a Prakrit term meaning “civilian”, suggesting that at least part of our diasporic group was somehow militarily involved.
This is mere speculation, though, and is not based in concrete facts.
The term, “gadje”, and any derivations that exist in other dialects simply mean “non-Romani people”.
“Gadji” means “non-Romani woman”.
“Gadjo” means “non-Romani man”.
“Rakle”, or “raklja” mean “non-Romani children”.
These words have one meaning & one meaning only: not Romani.
They are in no way inherently derogatory.
Saying “gadje” is no different than saying “non-Romani”. “Gadje” is just the word we use in Rromanes. It is no different than using “nem Rroma”, “nicht Rromani”, “ne Rromu”, “non-Romani”.
We just have a single term for those outside of our ethnicity in our own language.
That being said, people who do not speak Rromanes, people who are not ethnically Romani, should not use “gadje” or any other forms of the word.
You should refer to yourself & others outside of our ethnicity as “non-Romani”, or whatever the term is that exists in your language.
Maybe you know a Romani person who is okay with you referring to yourself as “gadje”, but you should only use this term when speaking with that individual.
Otherwise, you are bastardizing, or appropriating a word from our language.
This word is not yours; it is ours.
I do not know exactly what it is that frightens people about this word.
No, we will not stop speaking our own language simply because it makes you uncomfortable.
Most Romani on here, or on other forums only use “gadje” amongst each other.
We have found ourselves in a predicament where this word is either stolen from us & used by non-Romani, or that we are chastised for using a word that comes from our language.
Many times, when we post in English, we will use non-Romani because that is the only English translation of the term.
If we want to insult you, “gadje” is not the term we would use.
We have our own swear words & our own insults that we are not shy about throwing around.
“Gadje” is not one of those words.
The only arguments I have heard against the word are from ill-informed non-Romani who wrongly think this word is a slur, or from those who can only claim Romani “ancestry” & do not quite understand what it means to have people tell you that you cannot speak your own language.
If you are non-Romani; do not use “gadje” to refer to yourself unless you are speaking with a Romani person who is okay with your using it.
If you are non-Romani; do not ask us to stop speaking our own language because you have a misunderstanding of a term that we use.
Romany Gilla - Romany Song
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